Surviving Spouse Corner

As spouses that have lost our loved ones, we all have different stories of the manner in which they passed this life.  However, the emotional pain seems to be similar. 

One day, I saw a friend of mine at the hospital while my husband was still with me.  She had just lost her husband.  I asked her how she was doing and she said, “Connie, being a widow is like being in a different world”.  I didn’t understand exactly what she meant until my husband was no longer with me.  Yes, it is a different phase of life, but it all depends on how, with God’s help, we handle the situation.  Recently, I had lunch with another friend of mine that I respect very much and admire her strength.  She is a widow and keeps herself extremely busy. 

Her attitude of life and optimism are amazing.  She told me her story of the death of her husband and yes, I have permission to share it.  She said that when her husband was seriously ill, that she was diagnosed with breast cancer.  Her chemo therapy treatments were from August to December. 

When the results of the treatments came back, she told her husband.  The results made him very happy because the treatments were successful.  Her husband had been waiting for those results and the next day, after she had given him the news, he passed away.  As difficult as our situations may be, whether we have been a widow or widower for a short or long time, it is important to keep on going in this life with a positive look toward the future. 

Christmas is the perfect time for us to be joyful and grateful for all the blessings that we have and for the love that God gives us.  It is also the perfect time to appreciate the opportunity that we have to endure until it is time for us to join our loved ones that we cherished so much.

Fort Bliss Spouse employment orientation

Are you a military spouse looking for employment? You don’t have to job search on your own. Attend the Employment Orientation at Army Community Service. The orientation will take approximately 1.5 hours and a lot of good information will be provided about free services available to you. Learn how the Employment Readiness Program and Workforce Solutions Upper Rio Grande can assist you. We provide resume (civilian and federal) assistance and help you get ready for that dreaded interview. We have certified federal job search trainers to assist you. Orientations are held from 10 to 11:30 a.m. every Monday and Wednesday at ACS, 2494 Ricker Road at West Fort Bliss. Advance registration is required. To learn more or register, call 569-5838